tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-65175303693106140962024-02-19T14:51:53.574+05:30Relationship AdviceMontyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06861374433444641236noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-31404257249229012512012-12-30T23:19:00.000+05:302012-12-30T23:19:00.063+05:305 Lies that women tell men<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />
Here's a little help for men to figure out when their gal isn't being completely honest with them. Our tips help to decode female behaviour...<br />
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Though a recent study claims that a woman's face is like an open book that reveals her state of mind, but men need to beware!<br />
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Better not take it as the last verdict, for irrespective of how much you trust and adore your little angel, women do lie to their significant others at times.<br />
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Sometimes to carry off a situation without hurting his feelings or to save herself from trouble, while on occasions to contain her emotions and pose as Ms. Goody...popping casual, white lies is no big deal for women when it comes to playing it safe in the relationship.<br />
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White lies are no big blunders or massive betrayals, but small lies or 'truth manipulated' to handle a situation. At times she might fib to make her man feel better, to avoid a fight, or an embarrassing situation.<br />
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Here's a little help so that men can figure out when their adorable darling is not speaking her heart out and help them handle the situation with care...<br />
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Lie #1: "Oh! It's fine. I'm OK"<br />
Guards on guys! You must know that she's not fine at all and nothing is OK. And sooner or later you will have to bear the burnt of her pent up emotions that she has somehow managed to hold back until now. You'll find her taking this emotional defense on occasions when you may have forgotten her birthday, taken her for granted or have done anything that hurts her.<br />
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"Whenever my girlfriend lets go off my not so fatal error with a cool 'it's fine', I know it's nothing but the calm before a cyclone that I am fated to face in the time to come," shares Sandeep Sharma, a Delhi-based management student.<br />
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To portray that she doesn't care, the emotional lady prefers taking a refuge in this lie. Charu Marwah, a software engineer admits, "I prefer staying that 'It's OK' because if I react I'll be blamed of being a constant cribber, who is in complaining mode always. Though, I actually want him to go down on his knees and plead forgiveness."<br />
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Lie detector: Well, an experienced lover would know of the crime that he has committed, but the amateurs should look out for her reactions. She might not get vocal, but will do everything to make you feel guilty about the fact that you have hurt her. From being tight-lipped to giving the briefest responses that don't go beyond 'hmms, huhs or yes and no', to mean tones and loads of sarcasm - are a few hints that you can look out for. "Women have a tendency of expecting their man to understand the said, as well as the unsaid, and that leaves men in a dicey situation. And even here, by keeping quite or going away with a small 'I'm fine', she expects him to know that she's hurt," explains psychologist, Dr. Aruna Broota.<br />
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Lie # 2: "I love you for what you are"<br />
...and I don't want you to change. Well, may God be your saviour if you believe her for this. No wonders, if sheer pampering or impressing you might strictly be on her mind when she's saying this. "I just loved my wife whenever she averred this phrase. But gradually the knick-picking started and reality dawned upon me. At times it was my eating choice that bugged her, while at others it was my dressing style that she wanted to improve. Yet she continued to tell the blatant lie that she loved me for what I was," complained Madhukar Suhas, a Mumbai-based advertising professional.<br />
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Agreed, that you don't like this lie. But just imagine how it would feel if on your face she told you much she hated your paunch or how bad you looked in those lose-fitted denims. Thank her appreciating you taking care of your confidence levels.<br />
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"What do I do? I have to blow his trumpet when he does the right thing. After all, it was his qualities only that I married him for. And also, it becomes important to boost his confidence at times and those words just have the right impact," says Madhu Chandra, a Delhi-based-teacher.<br />
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Lie detector: If you start observing the occasions when she backs this mushy phrase, you might just realise she's not lying at all. On most of the occasions it comes when you have made her happy with anything like a gift, a movie, a romantic dinner or for that matter by doing anything and everything that she loves. You were good to her and that's your innate quality, which made her fall for you.<br />
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Lie # 3: You stare, I don't care!<br />
Either you are too lucky to have the coolest woman by your side, or you are getting an inflated ego without any reason if you believe her on this. No matter how hard she tries to look cool and composed, but the fact remains that no woman loves it when her man ogles at another woman. "After all, who wants to feel like second best? And the 'I don't care attitude' is usually to hide the vulnerability and a pretence. Most women hate their man staring at another woman," confesses Radhika Khattar, a Delhi-based housewife.<br />
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Lie detector: She doesn't want to show you how she's feeling and is no less desperate to tell you that you are torturing her to the core. Well, easy indications to know she's lying can be the trail of questions she'll end up asking you. Casually and candidly she'll ask you things like 'Isn't she hot?' 'What makes her so hot? 'Did you like her?' She might appear to be your best buddy, but actually she wants to ask you, 'Do I score less that the chic you are ogling at?' And your answer will decide your fate not immediately, but definitely in the future, so better beware of what you say!<br />
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Lie # 4: Your friends are cool!<br />
This might not be a lie always, but many a times your friends are nothing but a 'passion spoiler' for your girl, especially when they pop up during private moments. "When we started dating, on many occasions we went out with my friends. And every time I used to ask her, 'I hope you are enjoying?' she answered, 'They're cool!' The real shock came when one day I was planning another group date and she gave me a good piece of her mind. It's then that I realised that she didn't love them as much I thought she did. But she could have initially told me," says Rajat Sarin, a 20-year-old college student.<br />
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"Most of the times women end up praising your friends for you. They don't want to hurt you by revealing the truth and hope that you'll understand without saying, which usually doesn't happen," explains psychologist, Dr Sameer Parekh.<br />
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Lie detector: A sure shot hint to the lie is written on her face. Despite being in the group she'll remain an outsider. The smile that's usually worth a million dollars might just look purely artificial and forced. Her replies to all your enquiries will end in a cover up lie, 'I'm fine sweet heart' or 'I'm enjoying myself' and that takes you to Lie #1. So, when you get something like this from your girl, understand that you are getting into too much buddy-bonding!<br />
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Lie # 5: Tell me, trust me I won't get angry<br />
This one is tricky, leaving you with a ditch on one side and a bigger ditch on the other. This lie is usually thrown at you when she wants an honest opinion and knows what it can be, but still wants to hear it. Beware guys! Irrespective of what you say, she is going to get furious for sure. This usually happens in questions related to her looks, the food that she cooks, that tangy orange shirt she brought for you etc.<br />
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"Sometimes it is tough to handle. Once, my wife asked my honest opinion on a super tight dress that she had worn. And, I told her honestly that she was looking like a stuffed pillow and she was mad at me. Taking cues from my past experience; on another occasion I did my best to flatter her. To my sheer surprise, even that made her angry and she blamed me for not being a fair critic," complains Suraj Malhotra, a Delhi-based architect.<br />
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Lie detector: Well, there's no detector for this one, for undoubtedly she's lying. Then what's the solution? Answers Parekh, "It's not that women cannot take true criticism from their man or expect praises all the time. But what they actually expect is that criticism should come in a softer and suggestive manner, rather than a striking taunt on her looks. So, without being too critical or over flattering, just tell her that she needs to work out on her minuses."<br />
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PHEW! This was from us. Now it's your turn to share the sweet and salty white lies that you tell your man or your wife pours on you to leave you playing a guessing game of truth and false.<br />
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Women and men are as different as chalk and cheese. Men always find it difficult to understand women. Or so they proclaim.<br />
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But believe us, we are not that difficult to understand. Just try to keep the communication channel open and see how things fall into their place. Here's a guide of some of the things women wish men automatically understood (and remember it's neither astro-physics nor micro-biology).<br />
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1. We know men are low in EQ (Emotional Quotient) but make an effort to understand emotions. But remember we don't like men who can't control their emotions. Cry babies (oops men) are not what we are exactly looking at in life..<br />
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2. When we talk, pay attention to what we are saying. Don't just nod your head and continue watching the cricket match on television.<br />
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3. Your mother might be great in the kitchen and can whip up gourmet dishes in no time. But sorry we can't go on listening to your running commentary on her remarkable culinary skills.<br />
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4. We believe in the power of communication. So, talk, fight but don't just go into 'silent' mode. Leave that mode to your mobile phones.<br />
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5 All of us love a dash of chivalry in our partners. So be courteous and show us that you are well brought-up.<br />
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6 Don't brag. Showing off really acts against you. Be subtle about your fat pay packet, your swanky car and the like. That shows your class.<br />
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7. Don't think that you own us. So, behave accordingly. Like men folk, we also like our own space.<br />
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8. Romance comes naturally to us. We love it when a man expresses his love. So, please show us that you love. Say it through flowers, dinners, gifts and of course count surprises as an important element of our DNA. Understand these basic points and act accordingly<br />
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9. Don't try to give us lessons on moral science. And for heaven's sake don't comment on a low-neckline dress. That's a very cheap thing to do.<br />
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10. Don't crack jokes on our family members, close friends. Show your great sense of humour with a touch of sensibility..<br />
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So, rather than running away from the problem, which obviously you can't (and dare not), why not handle it in a smarter way that will ease your lives? We'll tell you how. <br />
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- Firstly, understand that it's not the person, but the hormones which play the brat. Your woman is bound to feel cranky and irritable. So be co-operative and try to understand her problem. Be smart enough to read the signs that will lead to anger or add up to her frustration and nip the reasons in the bud. Even though you find her behaviour funny at times, never ever make the mistake of joking around or teasing her about it. Lest you want to be crucified! And remember, as a guy you can never experience her agony. <br />
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- Doing things that she does not like you doing, can otherwise be tolerated. But this is certainly not the right time. So behave like a good boy. Keep up to your promises, don't be late when you meet her and things should be fine. <br />
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- You can also lessen her burden of work by helping her in the kitchen, paying her bills or running errands for the things that are required. <br />
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Gynaecologist Shyama Kothari says, "Periods often make women feel heavy and uncomfortable. So it's better if her man treats her special during those few days. Even if she's not looking her usual best, tell her how lovely she looks. Women feel insecure, lonely or depressed during that time. So making extra efforts to assure her of your love, and her worth will not cause any harm. Also, buying her a surprise gifts is a good idea." An important point that Dr Kothari makes is to avoid socialising. She adds, "The heaviness due to water retention causes a temporary weight gain. So usually party wear or tight fitted clothes feel tighter and uncomfortable. Also staying up late at night can aggravate the situation." <br />
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Women also tend to crave for sugary foods like chocolates during this time. Rather than commenting on the calorie aspect, it is advisable for men to join them in their sinful indulgence sessions to make it fun. Giving a relaxing head, foot or back massage to soothe her tensed nerves can work well too.Montyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06861374433444641236noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-86751481990147277352012-12-23T14:35:00.000+05:302012-12-23T14:35:00.017+05:30Love not enough for marriage!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />
<div style="background-color: white; color: #1d1d1d; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Verdana; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 15px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto;">Love has no major role to play in keeping couples together. In fact, the chances of a couple staying together are affected by age, previous relationships – and smoking. That’s the conclusion of a new study, which was conducted by researchers at the Australian National University.</div><div style="background-color: white; color: #1d1d1d; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Verdana; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 15px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto;">To reach the conclusion, boffins spent six years monitoring 2,500 couples who were married or living together, reports The Daily Express.</div><div style="background-color: white; color: #1d1d1d; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Verdana; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 15px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto;">The study found that money played a major factor in deciding whether a couple stand the test of time. The study, entitled <em>What's Love Got to Do With It</em>, showed that a quarter of partnerships and marriages will end within six years and half will be over within 25 years.</div><div style="background-color: white; color: #1d1d1d; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Verdana; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 15px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto;">It also found that a husband who is nine or more years older than his wife is twice as likely to get divorced, as are husbands who get married before they turn 25.</div><div style="background-color: white; color: #1d1d1d; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Verdana; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 15px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto;">Couples were twice as likely to split if the wife had a much stronger preference for children or for more of them. Smoking and drinking rates also contributed to relationship breakdown, the study found</div></div>Montyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06861374433444641236noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-60357026240832081092012-12-12T16:21:00.003+05:302012-03-17T10:49:30.994+05:30First Dates: Dos and Don’ts To Create Chemistry<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-n_RJj2CgXQE/T2QcuWyfIQI/AAAAAAAAAE0/AV9SeAiRlns/s1600/Sex%2Bon%2Bfirst%2Bdate.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;" title="sex on first date"><img border="0" height="213" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-n_RJj2CgXQE/T2QcuWyfIQI/AAAAAAAAAE0/AV9SeAiRlns/s320/Sex%2Bon%2Bfirst%2Bdate.jpg" width="320" /></a>Tonight is the night: You’ve dressed in your finest, popped a breath mint, and are headed off to meet someone who could be The One. Few moments are as pivotal as this initial rendezvous, and that holds true whether you met online, were set up through friends, or swapped numbers at a bar last Saturday. So: How do you get that all-necessary chemistry crackling between you as quickly as possible? Believe it or not, it’s not all up to fate. Anthropologists, body language experts, and other pros say there are plenty of strategies you can use to help your date relax, to build rapport, and even to instill a flutter of excitement. Try these tactics for a few instant sparks.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div><ol style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Plan an activity that’ll get your heart racing—literally</b><br />
There’s a reason scary movies make for great dates other than the excuse to squeeze someone’s hand: Frightening experiences get your pulse racing, adrenaline flowing, your face flushed—and these physiological responses bear a striking resemblance to sexual arousal. "The mind mistakes any sort of arousal for sexual attraction, and will attribute this excitement to whomever you're with," says David Givens, Ph.D., an anthropologist at the Center for Nonverbal Studies. “In fact, in one study where men met women on a bridge high above rushing water, subjects were more attracted to each other than those who met elsewhere.” Not that we’re recommending you meet there exactly—roller-coaster rides or a hike up a steep woodland trail should do the trick. Even the sweat you work up while eating spicy food can get you hot under the collar for each other, so consider suggesting Mexican or Thai for dinner.<br />
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<li><b>Mirror, mirror…your date</b><br />
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Want to convince the person sitting across from you that you two are totally on the same wavelength? Easy—just make a point of subtly mimicking their body position and the pacing of their movements, recommends Jay Arthur, author of Attracting Romance. "Sit the way your date is sitting, tilt your head the way he or she does, talk at the same speeds,” he suggests. On a subconscious level, people find similarity comforting, which paves the way for a stronger connection.<br />
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<li><b>Dwell on pleasurable experiences</b><br />
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Sure, engaging your date in a lively debate about the pros and cons of the Patriot Act may be intellectually stimulating, but an intimate conversation isn’t about impressing someone with your smarts: It’s about getting your date to tap into his or her sensual side. So, steer clear of topics that involve facts and figures and get your honey mulling over more pleasurable thoughts instead. Questions like “Do you have any summertime vacations planned?” or “What would you say is the best meal you’ve ever had in this neighborhood?” will easily get you both in a better frame of mind to bond. "Talking about awe-inspiring experiences and the attached emotions — seeing the Grand Canyon, for instance — lets you relive them," explains Givens. “People get hyped up talking about something that excites them, and that emotion gets transferred to the person they’re with.”<br />
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<li><b>Master your eye movements</b><br />
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Staring into someone’s eyes: It’s the oldest rule in the book. It indicates that you're confident, honest, and interested in this person—all of which can make a date’s heart skip a beat. And yet, it can be hard for daters to do this move with finesse. Don’t worry, no one’s asking you to engage in a staring contest. In the world of eye contact, less is more. "Don't immediately look away when feeling awkward,” says Laurie Puhn, J.D., author of Instant Persuasion: How to Change Your Words to Change Your Life. “Hold your date's gaze for one extra second—that's all you need to do.” If you’re having trouble, try shifting your attention to their eyebrows instead; it’s close enough that your date will still feel like you’re focused on him or her. Next, try this advanced technique: Let your gaze occasionally “dance” from one of your date’s eyes to the other, back and forth, which conveys excitement and creates a flirtatious mood.<br />
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<li><b>Don't feel compelled to get touchy-feely</b><br />
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Eventually, if all goes well, physical contact—hand-holding, hugging, kissing, and much racier stuff—will naturally happen and will cement a bond between you. But at this early stage, all too often it can backfire. If your date isn’t ready for contact yet—either stiffening when you move in or turning the dreaded cheek when you go for a kiss—it can be hard to recover your composure and the date’s good vibes. The key is to let your date know you’re “in like” but not push too hard on the physical front. Your best bet for your first encounter is something sweet but not gropey. If a handshake’s your style, put a cozy twist on it by clasping your date’s palm in one hand and putting your other hand on top, warmly encircling their wrist. Or, try a seamless handshake-to-hug combo by grasping your date’s hand, pulling him or her slightly toward you and encircling your other arm around your date’s torso. To further cut the tension, say something like, “I had such a great time and am so glad we did this.” And unless you’re getting clear signs your date’s dying to be kissed—as in, he or she remains in your personal space with a smile and lots of direct eye contact—resist the urge to plant one on the lips or even the cheek. Don’t worry, there will be plenty of time for that later. And hey, you’re always better off leaving your date with something to look forward to.<br />
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Have you ever wondered how would it be possible to improve relationships with kindness? Or what can you do on your part to improve relationships? For me, life is all about the relationships that we make and the close bonds we build, where kindness plays a major role.<br />
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Some of you must be dreaming, wondering, or thinking about what and how you can do to improve relationships and have a loving, secure, intimate, or open relationship with your families, friends, and lovers.<br />
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Remember, relationships thrive on kindness and love, and human beings are born in relationships, so essentially the lives we lead right from infancy to old age are fastened in the bond of relationships.
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People often have a hard time in their relationships as they play the “I’m right and you are wrong” game, and start blaming each other instead of taking responsibility and practicing the act of kindness.<br /><br />
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“Speaking with kindness creates confidence, thinking with kindness creates profoundness, giving with kindness creates love.” —Lao Tzu</blockquote>
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Kindness to others and to yourself comes from a desire to support your own utmost good and the utmost good of others. You are genuinely kind when your uppermost priority is to support the highest good of everyone. You don’t even have to think about it, as it flows easily when your sincere desire is to be a caring, loving, and kind person.<br />
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However, when your deepest desire is to protect yourself from getting hurt, then your natural choice in conflict is most likely to attempt to control with blame, withdrawal, anger, compliance, resistance, or judgment.<br />
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When you extend kindness to others, you are really extending it towards yourself, as it leaves you a gentler, better, and more joyful person.<br />
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Whenever you want to improve relationships with kindness with your friends, family, spouse or any other person, you need to have noble, charitable thoughts, and should express more love. Mentioned below are 10 ways to improve relationships with kindness-<br />
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<b>1. Love is the key</b><br />
If you want to improve relationships with kindness, remember that love is the key part to making a relationship work, and kindness is a product of love. You cannot have a successful relationship, friendship, marriage, etc. without some degree of love. You need to try and become best friends with your spouse or simply a friend.<br />
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<b>2. Be kind and sensitive</b><br />
You are most likeable when you are kind, as people think of you as someone who is good to and for them. If you turn out to be the person people like, it becomes much easier for them to spend time with and around you. Also, learn to say something kind, some words of love (try out “I love you”!) and positivity on a daily basis. Remember, the more you give, the more you get.<br />
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Kindness also makes you more sensitive, as those who are kind don’t hurt the people they have relationships with, thus they are careful about how they treat them and are never harsh, or insensitive.<br />
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<b>3. Start afresh</b><br />
If you want to avoid petty, small, or even big arguments and problems in your relationships, you need to put such arguments or problems in the past or behind you. By doing so you are saying to yourself that the argument is over and it’s time to look for solution, look ahead, and start afresh.<br />
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I have practiced this often by focusing on the end results and how the problem is going to affect my relationship in a few days, months, and in the long run. This small shift in my thought process has helped me immensely to put the argument behind me, and focus on the solutions and make a huge positive impact in my relationship.<br />
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<b>4. Show compassion and acceptance</b><br />
To improve relationships, treat others the way you wish to be treated. We all yearn to be treated lovingly with respect, kindness, understanding, compassion, and acceptance. Though there are no guarantees, but often treating another with kindness brings kindness in return. Kindness to others doesn’t mean self-sacrificing, but taking the task for yourself as opposed to blaming others is the most important thing you can do.<br />
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If you are always kind to your partner and to yourself, but your partner is always blaming, angry, unavailable, and withdrawn, then you need to accept it as a far off relationship, or you may need to leave the relationship. Remember, you cannot change your partner, you can only change yourself.<br />
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<b>5. Learn rather than control</b><br />
While trying to improve relationships, you will have conflicts. However, there are only two ways to handle the conflict- one is to remain open to learning more about yourself and your partner, and discover the root issues of the conflict or trying to win the battle so that you don’t lose, via some type of controlling routine.<br />
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Such controlling routines are ways to conquer others into behaving the ways we wish, but all the different ways that we try to control will develop more conflict. Remember to learn to become better yourself, rather than control others if you want to improve relationships with kindness.<br />
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<b>6. Create time for fun and play</b><br />
People make time for each other when they fall in love or meet for the first time. Similarly, to improve relationships, you need time to be together, to converse, to play, to develop trust in friendship, make love, share things, take walks, sit and talk for a few minutes daily, share a hobby, watch a program together, laugh and play, or just about do anything together.<br />
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You need to understand about the feelings, emotions, and care about the other person. And remember, intimacy flourishes when here is lightness of being, not when everything is heavy!<br />
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<b>7. Practice gratitude</b><br />
When there is an attitude of gratitude between two people, positive energy flows, whereas permanent complaints or nagging develops a heavy, negative energy all around. In order to improve relationships with kindness, learn what moves you and your partner, and practice to be grateful for what you have, rather than focus on what you don’t have.<br />
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Complaints always develop stress, while gratitude brings about inner peace, so it builds up not only emotional and relationship health, but physical health as well.<br />
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<b>8. Appreciate and acknowledge</b><br />
Small deeds of kindness matter, so learn to appreciate and acknowledge the kindness from your partner. A small note, a loving comment, or a phone call during the day may be all your partner needs. When we express and notice gratitude for the kindness shown to us, it strengthens the relationship.<br />
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<b>9. Help each other</b><br />
To improve relationships with kindness, learn to help each other out. For example, when one partner or friend finds decision making a tough task and seeks your help, the partner who is more decisive may be tempted to be angry or impatient. But, if we are wise we will patiently help our partner to make a decision. To help in the household chores, look after the kids, or take on your partners responsibility for the day are other ways to help each other.<br />
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<b>10. Improve yourself</b><br />
In order to improve relationships with kindness you need to take responsibility for yourself and improve yourself. This means that rather than trying to change your partner, you learn to introspect and examine your own feelings and emotions. Develop the required inner strength and power that builds you from within.<br />
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Once you learn to take the responsibility on yourself, you stop blaming your partner for things that upset you. This in turn helps you improve relationships with kindness and creates a beautiful relationship.<br />
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Kindness allows you to love, forget, forgive, and be loved in return. When you are kind yourself, you put the relationships first. So, with the above mentioned 10 ways to improve relationships with kindness, and with World Kindness Day coming around the corner, what deeds of kindness are you going to practice for yourself and your dear ones?<br /><br />
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“You cannot do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson</blockquote>
Over to you- How do you try and improve your relationships? When you enter into an argument do you practice kindness or try to improve relationship with kindness or try to prove you are right?
</div>Montyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06861374433444641236noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-77098749910435953552012-03-17T12:03:00.002+05:302012-03-17T12:11:07.595+05:30Top 10 Things Women Want You To Do In Bed<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
From talking with female friends informally, I know there are a few things which almost EVERY woman wishes men did more of in bed. Here are the top 10:<br />
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<b>1. GIVING HER AN ORGASM BEFORE INTERCOURSE STARTS</b><br />
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This is far and away the biggest thing women wish men did more of in bed. Most men don’t do this – instead, they clumsily plow straight to intercourse as fast as possible. </ol>
<ol><b>Woman in bed</b><br />This means that “foreplay” usually consists of a few minutes of obligatory kissing, followed by a few minutes of obligatory breast stimulation, followed by a few minutes of obligatory cunnilingus until the ultimate goal of intercourse is reached. This isn’t what women want! If you can give her an orgasm before you penetrate her, then it’s GUARANTEED to be good sex in her book, even if you don’t last as long as you’d like. And on top of this, giving her an orgasm will make her more responsive and MUCH more likely to have another orgasm during intercourse. Sex becomes better for you, and for her.</ol>
<b>2. PAYING ATTENTION TO NON-OBVIOUS EROGENOUS ZONES</b><br />
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Most men only pay attention to the “obvious” spots on a woman’s body when trying to give her sexual pleasure, like the breasts, clitoris and g-spot. But women don’t want you to ONLY pay attention to these spots … they want you to pay attention to their WHOLE BODY. </ol>
<ol>This is because there are 16 other “hidden” erogenous zones on her body which can give her pleasure, and which can actually make her MORE sensitive to vaginal stimulation. Most men don’t know about these … but if you’re one of the rare men who does, then she’ll be screaming your name in pleasure.</ol>
<b>3. LASTING LONGER IN BED</b><br />
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We’ve been told that “women don’t mind if you don’t last that long in bed, as long as you’re good with your fingers” and that it’s OK for a man to only last a few minutes in bed. This is a big steaming heap of BS. </ol>
<ol>Women HATE it when a man shoots off too soon because it prevents them from having orgasms. How would you feel if a woman got YOU close to an orgasm, then all of a sudden stopped, rolled over, and went to sleep? </ol>
<ol>You need to know how to last 30 minutes in bed AT THE MINIMUM. If you really want to drive women wild, then you should learn how to last over an hour in bed. And of course you can have a “quickie” once in a while, but most of the time women will need a minimum of 30 minutes of intercourse to have multiple orgasms.</ol>
<b>4. TEASING HER UNTIL SHE BEGS FOR IT</b><br />
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From many conversations and interviews with women I know the typical man in bed does almost no teasing. He just plows forwards directly to his goal of intercourse with no finesse, just doing the minimum necessary to get to penetration. </ol>
<ol>What women want is for you do build up to a sexual action with teasing until she’s practically begging you for it. THEN give her the gratification. For example, with oral sex most men just dive right in. What would turn her on much more is if you kiss up her inner thighs, and breathe warmly on her vagina. Then, so lightly she can barely feel it, run your tongue over her clitoris. </ol>
<ol>Do this until she’s pleading with you to give her more and THEN give her the gratification. She’ll enjoy it about a hundred times more. This leads into the next things women want more of in bed, which is…
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<b>5. MORE ORAL SEX</b><br />
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I’m constantly amazed by how many men have told me that they don’t give women oral sex that often, or that they don’t do it at all. The justification which I’ve heard so many times is “it’s OK, I’m good with my fingers.” </ol>
<ol>This is like a girl telling you “I don’t give blowjobs … but it’s OK, I’m good with my hands.” It’s just not the same. If you know how to do it right, giving her oral sex is the fastest and easiest way to give her orgasms. Plus, once you make her finish through oral sex she’ll be MUCH more responsive during intercourse … and much more likely to go down on you. Give your girlfriend plenty of oral sex, and she will love you for it. </ol>
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</div>sherlockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00957567662242969748noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-28586528260843487822012-02-21T14:22:00.001+05:302012-03-17T10:54:00.828+05:30How to have fun while dating<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-r8H__fSmqhg/T0NayETPFII/AAAAAAAAAEQ/XXWTNua0EkI/s1600/adults14.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="300" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-r8H__fSmqhg/T0NayETPFII/AAAAAAAAAEQ/XXWTNua0EkI/s320/adults14.jpg" width="268" /></a></div>Dating need not lead to the altar or even the bedroom. Here's how to enjoy the ride<br />
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Paying the bill on your first date, opening doors, dropping her home after, has been written about countless number of times. But that isn't all that makes you a gentleman.<br />
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While our primitive instincts dictate that a fruit must be plucked when it's ripe, men aren't wired that way when it comes to finding a partner. Life coach Malti Bhojwani believes that Indian men just don't grasp the concept of dating. For them, it is either about marriage or immediate consummation. She tells you why dating, without taking the woman to bed, is not just healthy, it can also be a lot of fun.<br />
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<b>The pursuit of pursuit</b><br />
Studies have shown that one of the biggest differences between how men and women are wired is that, men have a sexual pursuit area that is 2.5 times larger than the one in the female brain. This basically means that we are the donkey longing after that carrot, and once we get 'it', well we don't want to go any further. Malti Bhojwani says, "Consider this friend whom you have known for the longest time and you really like her. When you finally weigh the pros and cons, would you want to sleep with her on the first date?"<br />
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<b>Then why date at all?</b><br />
Malti feels we are lucky to grow up in an age where dating is acceptable. "Imagine growing up in a time where all you knew was the name of your partner before getting married," she says. We should take advantage of this privilege and get to know our potential partner before ending up in bed. Most single people, whether they admit or not, are looking for a life partner through dating. If you keep the dates 'clean' you have a better chance of getting to know the other person. If you see some sparks flying, take the plunge. And if you don't, just remain friends.<br />
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<b>Love and lust</b><br />
One of the biggest problems of sleeping with a person too soon is that you can't differentiate between love and lust. Malti feels that most women are not honest about what they really want from a date. "Many women want more from a relationship, but go to bed on the first date because they feel the man will fall in love with them," she explains. This is one of the reasons why relationships don't last too long. The man doesn't know from which end of his body he is thinking, and things go downhill a few months later.<br />
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<b>Ego boost</b><br />
As primitive as it sounds, men like taking care of their women. It comes naturally to us. Taking a date seriously doesn't just help your chances of building a decent relationship, it also makes you feel better. Malti says, "Being a gentleman isn't just for the women. It makes a man feel like he is in charge. A gentle but sure ego boost."<br />
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<b>So how does this work?</b><br />
Remember dating in college? You would never think of sleeping with your date immediately. You need to 'base out' your sexuality initially - first base, second base, and so on. Malti feels men need to go back to that. Kiss on the first date and a few dates later you could get more intimate. Exploring your partner emotionally, and physically, is the way a gentleman does it.<br />
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<b>Easy does it</b><br />
Casual dating is a whole different ballgame. If all you are looking for is a good time, then that changes the dating equation. You need to let your date know from the get go. It doesn't mean that you ask her out saying that all you want to do is have sex. Take her out, have a nice dinner, but don't sleep with her unless you've made your stand clear. Malti says, "Don't say that you are falling for her just to get her into bed. Tell her that you are not looking for a relationship or commitment. If things get ugly later, which happens a lot, you at least know that you have told her from the outset."<br />
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Basically, if you are looking for a lifelong partner, keep the mating on hold. Concentrate on the dating.<br />
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Kevin.Lobo</div>Montyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06861374433444641236noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-44271979038728355282012-02-21T14:16:00.000+05:302012-02-21T14:16:32.999+05:3017 Ways to say 'I love you'<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />
Express yourself in a creative fashion.<br />
We tell you how to make your partner feel special<br />
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Leave clues around the house for him to find. Once he has all the pieces together let him/her piece it together to read - I Love You.<br />
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2. Create a photo album with witty one liners<br />
It will put a smile on your face and remind you of all the special moments and memories you have spent together.<br />
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3 Let your partner get starry eyed<br />
Use the scraps from Glow-in-the-Dark sticker pages and cut out the words "I LOVE YOU". Stick them over your partner's side of the bed. Every night, when the lights go out your sentiment glows on the ceiling!<br />
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4. Serenade your partner<br />
Pick a song that is special to both of you and exercise those vocal chords. You are sure to win brownie point for the gesture, just make sure you practice before you take the stage.<br />
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5. Love coupons<br />
Hand over a jar of coupons your partner can redeem through the year. They are sure to appreciate the gesture.<br />
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6. Candlelight dinner and dessert<br />
Whether it's the meal on the plate or a kiss on the lips, make sure your partner knows that you are the hottest one on the menu.<br />
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7. Cook dinner together<br />
Instead of going to a fancy restaurant for an expensive meal, cook a simple but delicious dinner at home, and enjoy each other's company.<br />
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8. Sign up for a ballroom dance class<br />
Try Latin ballroom dancing, brush up your moves and have a blast together on the dance floor.<br />
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9. Say it with toast<br />
Prepare a special breakfast for your love one and surprise them with it. If you have an espresso machine try making a heart with froth on the coffee and toast with jam that reads I love you.<br />
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10. Deliver lunch<br />
Have a surprise hot lunch delivered to their office, even better if you can deliver it yourself.<br />
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11. Say it with a heart-shaped sandwich<br />
Carve a heart-shaped bread and fill it with your partner's favourite fillings. They are sure to appreciate the treat and the gesture.<br />
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12. Take off on a trip together<br />
Celebrate being together with a trip to your favourite holiday destinations.<br />
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13. Milkyway<br />
Hide a bunch of silly prizes and a card in your lover's favorite cereal.<br />
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14. Cut an album<br />
In your own voice, record poetry or a song on a CD for your partner to listen to on the way to work or while he or she is out of town.<br />
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15. Say it on the mirror, mirror on the wall<br />
Use that old tube of lipstick to write a good morning greeting on the mirror.<br />
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16. The tasting game<br />
Take strawberries, chillies, chocolate, mix different flavours and blindfold your partner. If they guess the right one reward them with a kiss.<br />
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17. Go the tech way<br />
Change the screen saver on the computer to a scrolling message. For added effect, use a wingding or character font that can't be read without decoding.<br />
(Compiled by Melissa D'costa)<br />
</div>Montyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06861374433444641236noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-52107949212564876222012-01-31T16:47:00.000+05:302012-01-31T16:47:22.720+05:3010 Things men should never ask women<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">David DeAngelo, author of "Double Your Dating", says there is nothing worse than making mistakes that will later be regretted and one way to avoid them is to remember the following, Bullz-Eye.com reported.<br />
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First of all , a man should never ask a woman if he can kiss her, as she will only say, a man should never "ask" for a kiss.<br />
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Asking her for a kiss will only make a man look like a boy, which is what a woman is not interested in, and even if she says "yes", it could mean she is just being polite, while on the inside her attraction meter will read a firm, "No".<br />
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Secondly , a man should never ask a woman if he can take her out on a date sometime, as she would like to be with a man who is a leader and in control, not someone who asks her permission to hit on her.<br />
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A man should confidently ask a woman out, by simply saying, "We should hang out... what's your number?" or tell her about a specific place he wants to take her to.<br />
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Thirdly , a man should never brag about the car he has or the kind of house he lives in, as it would seem like he is trying hard to impress her.<br />
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Women would be far more impressed by a man's material possessions if he does not mention them in conversation.<br />
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The fourth thing a man should never ask a woman is what she wants to do for the night, as she likes a "man with a plan".<br />
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The man needs to have a game plan before he calls her, so as to ensure that she will not be burdened with having to think about what to do.<br />
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Fifthly, a man should never ask a woman if she likes him, as this is one phrase that turns off a woman completely.<br />
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He should just assume that she likes him, and never ask the question, as it would look like he has no confidence.<br />
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The sixth tip is that a man should never ask a woman why she never answered his message, as one, it would show that he cared she did not reply back, and two, it would give her a guilt trip, which is seen as insecurity by women.<br />
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The seventh tip is that a man should never ask a woman how many men she has slept with, as this shows that he is suffering from insecurity.<br />
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The eighth tip is that a man should never hint at a future date with a woman he has just met, as she not only wants but needs a guy who is somewhat of a "challenge", and will lose interest if she senses she has won.<br />
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The ninth tip is that a man should never end a phone conversation with a woman with a "next step", as firstly it would kill any spontaneity by being predictable, and secondly he would kill any chances of her calling him.<br />
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The tenth tip is that a man should never talk bad about a woman's guy friends especially if he hasn't met them and doesn't know her very well, as this is the fastest way for her to mark him as "insecure".</div>Montyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06861374433444641236noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-90537731454368533432012-01-31T16:27:00.002+05:302012-03-10T13:00:19.707+05:307 Things men are perfect at<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />
There are some things that men can do and women can't. There are many other things that women can do and men can't.<br />
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Like giving birth for instance. But, aside that, here's a compilation of seven things that men are so perfect at, that they can be really annoying. Enjoy!<br />
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<ol style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Sexy morning voices:</b> This one is definitely tops the list. Men have such seductive baritones when they wake up in the morning, while we women end up croaking like frogs. Although we are quite sure that the sexy 'morning voice' is directly proportional to the sexiness quotient of their normal voices, unofficial research has shown that men with reasonable voices end up with super sexy morning voices as well. Let's also imagine a George Clooney like face to go with that voice. Sigh.<br />
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<li><b>Ability to give comforting hugs: </b>There's no denying it. Embracing a man is like hugging a life size teddy bear. Only warmer. And human. Not only does everything feel like it will be OK, the world seems so much safer in that embrace. Know what's even better? The hug comes with a surplus - don't you just love the way they smell your hair?<br />
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<li><b>Their uncanny knack of pissing you off and making you feel good at the same time: </b>Alright, moving on. Only a man can achieve that impossible task of pissing you off and making you feel great at the same time. A classic example would be when a man watching a woman give birth says, "Does it really hurt that bad?" and then looks at your annoyed expression and immediately chirps, "But, I am sure you'll be brave honey." Well, at least he's thinking about having kids with you right?<br />
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<li><b>Saying something completely inappropriate and still is charming : </b>This one is a classic. And no, we're not talking about the cheesy pick up lines that go something along the lines of "do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk by again." We're referring to the smooth talkers here.<br />
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<li><b>Ability to eat like a pig and not feel guilty about it: </b>Ever seen a teenage boy wolf down an entire pizza by himself? Or a fully grown man helping himself onto a fourth helping of biryani? Heck, have you ever heard a man say he's "full"? Maybe they are blessed with excellent metabolism or maybe they are just built that way, they can eat gigantic quantities of food, and still work it off. We envy you for not having to worry about cellulite on your hips and thighs.<br />
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<li><b>Their ability to fix things: </b>We're not just talking about your feelings here ladies, we're referring to everything from light bulbs and fuse wires to your personal computer and your mobile phone. Can you imagine what would have happened if they thought the 'chip' referred to Lays?<br />
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<li><b>Gods of gaming: </b>This one is again a given. They can beat women hands down in most videogames (unless we're talking about something that involves too much pink and needless to say a Barbie). In the words of one very wise man, "Men can destroy women at video games. Destroy!"</li>
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<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">It's time to upgrade your sex life, and to get your partner turned on like never before.<br />
We already knew that women love sex, but have we ever thought of sex positions women really enjoy or feel comfortable while reaching orgasm? There are many sex positions out there, only some of them give more pleasure to women.<br />
Women are always ready to accept and enjoy men's favorite sex positions but women seldom ask for their favourite position(s). The time has come for men to understand what women really want in bed. Remember, great sex happens only when there is a smooth balance between pleasure and comfort.<br />
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We bring you five amazing sex positions you need to explore and women always wanted to have.<br />
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1. <b>Get dirty with doggy style</b>: Women definitely enjoy doggy style. It is probably one of the best sex positions, and also the most arousing position for men. Make sure to perform this style with intimacy and pleasure.<br />
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2. <b>The overused style, missionary position:</b> No doubt, the man-on-woman position is the most common one. It's boring but sex mostly begins with missionary position, and women still like it. In this position women get more intimate with their partners through eye contact.<br />
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3. <b>Women like riding, cowgirl style:</b> It's a big turn-on for both the sexes, and perhaps the sexiest sex position. Sometimes women like to dominate men during sex. In this position women can move back and forth and stimulate their G-spot for a big orgasm. You may also try reverse cowgirl position.<br />
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4. <b>Get more intimate with spoons position:</b> Side by side sexual position is one of the most comfortable sex positions, and it can really last long. Get naughtier by doing some dirty talk while you can.<br />
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5. <b>Out of control, the standing position:</b> Sometimes women want to jump out of the bed and play again in standing position. In this style, she sits on a surface and he thrust her from the front as deeply as he can, and in all likelihood gets the chance to hit the G-spot. Try this position in the kitchen or on a tabletop.<br />
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Simply go ahead and give your girl the most amazing orgasm of her life.</div></div>Montyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06861374433444641236noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-1993738244243175022012-01-31T15:31:00.000+05:302012-01-31T15:31:30.384+05:305 ways to tell that a woman likes you<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />
<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-_nx9QDpsVVk/Tye599yyQcI/AAAAAAAAAD0/TWCYa4XQ1Jc/s1600/man-looking-at-woman.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="265" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-_nx9QDpsVVk/Tye599yyQcI/AAAAAAAAAD0/TWCYa4XQ1Jc/s400/man-looking-at-woman.jpg" width="400" /></a>Life is short. So when you're out on the town meeting new women, no point in wasting time. How can you tell which ladies really welcome seduction? What clues do they give off? How can you tell which girl will be interested in you ? It can get very complicated when it comes to reading the signs a girl is sending. Mostly these signs consists of eye movements, body positioning, way of talking, pitch of talking and much more. Here's a guide to the things they say and do that mean they like you.<br />
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<b>She makes eye contact:</b> If you haven't met yet but catch her looking at you then glancing away, then checking back to see if you're still looking at her ... this is a sign, gentlemen! Even better: She keeps you in her keen peripheral vision (8 to 4 o'clock) or dispatches her friends to covertly track your moves. Yes, this sounds totally juvenile, but it never changes - no matter how old she is. Just make sure she's actually staring at you, not the Mahendra Singh Dhoni look-a-like next to you (or Dhoni himself, because nothing's more embarrassing than responding to her glances with your best sexy look only to find you're standing under the TV set during a good game).<br />
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<b>She smiles, tells you her name and starts throwing off physical signals</b>: Good signs are that she's ruffling her feathers: hair fluffing, twirling, extra giggling, strutting or wiggling around. And think you're so sly sneaking a peak at her cleavage? Dummy - she was letting you look. Meanwhile, is she politely shooing away people who drift in to interrupt? That's fantastic! She's trying to keep the party to two.<br />
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<b>She searches for commonalities:</b> Any. Thing. At. All. Favourite sweets you had as a kid, water sports, late-night sitcoms. And if you really seem to have nothing in common? She says, "Wow! I've always wanted to try that", regardless of whether you're going on about shark-cage diving or a pottery class. But if she frowns at you blankly, clearly having no clue what you're talking about, move on. She might actually do the moving on for you by enlisting her wing girl, introducing you both as lovers of water parks/Juicy Fruit/"Seinfeld", then diving off to the bathroom, never to return.<br />
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<b>She touches you:</b> That may mean she touches your shoulder when she leans in to talk or gives you a friendly jab in the ribs. Subtly test waters by letting your knee rest on hers. She lets it stay there? Score! If she's taking great pains not to let any part of her body linger near yours or if she recoils abruptly at your touch, even by accident, move on!<br />
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<b>She's taking the interaction to another level; </b> By a) clarifying that she's talking about an ex-boyfriend, not a current one, when she says "we", b) asking open-ended questions about you that require long answers, and c) dissuading you from leaving and going to the next party (or at least being very forward in opining that you should come back if it's rubbish).<br />
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Content courtesy: Men's Life Today, India</div>Montyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06861374433444641236noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-76511921812510625392012-01-17T16:34:00.000+05:302012-01-17T16:34:56.848+05:308 Signs Woman is Interested In You<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />
<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Zt6Xu8e06jw/TxVVplv4iXI/AAAAAAAAADk/THpxavc2Frk/s1600/nehapatel70192162050.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Zt6Xu8e06jw/TxVVplv4iXI/AAAAAAAAADk/THpxavc2Frk/s320/nehapatel70192162050.jpg" width="283" /></a>Men hate it when women reject them. There’s nothing worse than having your ego smashed to little pieces when the woman of your dreams turns you down for a date. You really thought she was interested, but somehow you must have misread her signals.<br />
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From the male point of view, women are often far too subtle and indirect — or just plain confusing — when revealing their romantic interest. And, yes, women often send mixed messages because they’re not sure of what’s going on inside their own heads.<br />
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What most guys are looking for is a set of clear female signals that tell them when a woman is definitely warm for their form. Does this exist? Well, here are a few signs that should tell you that she probably wants you to ask her out.<br />
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1- <b>She’s “in your face</b>”<br />
Suddenly, you’ll become aware of her presence everywhere — she “just happens” to show up wherever you hang out; you keep passing her in the hallway at work; she “accidentally” bumps into you; she maneuvers to stand close to you at a club.<br />
What she’s doing is trying to get you to notice her and giving you an opportunity to make the first move. The problem with this female strategy is that a lot of guys are completely oblivious to it and, consequently, throw away a lot of chances to hook up. Men are direct; women are indirect. So, next time a woman starts appearing regularly in your path, be aware that she’s likely doing it on purpose.<br />
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2- <b>She has all the right moves</b><br />
A lot of people say that bodies can’t lie. Nature has programmed humans with a complex set of non-verbal flirting signals that just flow freely when people are interested in someone. These range from the widening of the iris when looking at the object of desire to more overt displays, such as smiling or touching.<br />
Here are a few body language cues to watch out for:<br />
• She points in your direction with her leg, foot or shoulders.<br />
• She leans toward you while talking.<br />
• She plays with or tosses her hair.<br />
• She fidgets with a piece of jewelry (like an earring) or strokes the stem of her glass.<br />
• She keeps her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks.<br />
• She mirrors your body movements (for example, if you put your hand on the table, she quickly does the same).<br />
• She smiles when you check her out.<br />
If you become aware of a cluster of these signals, you can almost be sure that she’s giving you the green light for romance.<br />
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3- <b>She’s never too busy</b><br />
This is a cardinal rule in the dating game: If a woman is interested in going out with you, she will make herself available. This means that she will give you her work number or e-mail address, she will quickly answer or return your call and she will accept your invitation to get together — and if she’s busy on the day you specify, she will say something like, “Well, I can’t this Saturday, but next Saturday would be fine.”<br />
You’ll never hear from an interested woman things like, “I’m really busy right now” or “Let me check my schedule” or “I just got out of a bad relationship, so I’m all mixed up about men.” Even if she’s actively dating someone else, she will keep the lines of communication open with you for the possibility of future contact.<br />
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4- <b>She’s curious about you</b><br />
A woman who’s interested in you wants to know everything about you (so she can talk about you with her girlfriends). She will quiz you about your family, your background, and your tastes in things like food, music and movies. Very often, what she’s doing is trying to catalog your interests so that she can mimic your likes and dislikes in order to bond with you. If you’re crazy about hot-air ballooning, suddenly, she is, too.<br />
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5- <b>She uses “The Probe” on you</b><br />
“The Probe” is the female tool used for ascertaining a man’s financial resources. The Probe seems like a series of casual questions, but behind it is a ruthless calculator that’s ticking away. When a woman first meets a man that she might be interested in dating, she will quiz him on his job, where he lives and what kind of car he drives — all within the confines of a natural conversation. If you give the “right” answers, then the flirting signals will follow. But if you aren’t up to her “standards,” she’s gone in a cloud of dust.<br />
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6- <b>She “futures” you</b><br />
An interested woman is wide open for any future plans with you. In fact, she will often say something like, “Oh, you like bowling, too? We should do that some time.” When she’s operating in this mode, make no mistake about it — she wants you to ask her out.<br />
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7 - She’s on pins and needles<br />
If she’s really interested, she’ll be as nervous as a cat around you, especially if you’re clueless about reading her signals. Of course, she could be just a normally shy person, so watch how she interacts with others. If she’s only fidgety around you, then she’s probably thinking romance.<br />
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8- <b>She’s jealous of other women you talk to</b><br />
She has the green-eyed monster on her back. An interested woman will watch her competition like a hawk (and with talons bared). So if you notice her steaming just because you’re joking around with other women, you can be sure that she wants you to be more than just her friend.<br />
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<b>It’s time to make your move</b><br />
These are some of the most obvious signals women emit when they want you. But be on your toes — spotting just one of these signs might not necessarily be enough to determine her interest (a lot of women are open and friendly to everyone). But if a lot of these signals are coming your way, it’s a pretty sure.<br />
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</div></div>Montyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06861374433444641236noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-27991784729721243052012-01-08T14:10:00.005+05:302012-01-11T14:41:21.304+05:30Is Your Date Into You?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">It’s no secret that people spend a large portion of their time with a first date wondering, Does this person like me? And while you would think the signs would be clear, all too often they’re not. Even if your date has been smiling up a storm or raptly listening to your views on alternative fuel, he or she could just be acting interested and secretly hoping the evening will end soon. But that’s not to say you need to be in the dark about your date’s true feelings. It turns out there are many signals your date may send that give away what’s really going on. Here are some of those subtle signs that, at first glance, might seem like nothing… but could mean there’s a real connection and raging chemistry between you two.<br /><br /><span id="goog_1623239501"></span><span id="goog_1623239502"></span><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-L6MH8BTURnc/TwlWFsx-HKI/AAAAAAAAADY/xoKpv6u4Ejc/s1600/first-date-at-cafe.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="424" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-L6MH8BTURnc/TwlWFsx-HKI/AAAAAAAAADY/xoKpv6u4Ejc/s640/first-date-at-cafe.jpg" width="600" /></a></div><br /><br /><b>Your date says your name more than usual</b>.<br /><br />Maybe your date says your first and last name, like, “So, Michael Malone, you up for a night cap after dinner?” Or maybe your date says just your first name three times, like “Jenna, Jenna, Jenna.” Either way, it can be a sign that your date feels so much chemistry, he or she can’t help but connect with your closest possession: your name. But only if your name is said in an enthusiastic way—not in a flat tone like the person behind the counter at the DMV. “Saying someone’s name is like a sign that you’re testing the magic you’re feeling, because you almost can’t believe they’re real,” says body language expert Patti Wood. “It also subconsciously elicits immediate focus from the person whose name is said,” says Wood, which is more proof of the chemistry: If your date is into you, he or she wants your full attention.<br /><br /><b>Your date squints at you</b>.<br /><br />If you watch reality dating shows like <a href="http://goo.gl/e6z67">The Bachelor</a> and all the rest, when one party harbors a crush on the other, they’ll give each other a cute little squint, usually followed by a smile. What gives? It’s an unconscious bit of body language that shows the person is searching for more info about you. “Squinting is typically a gesture of searching deeper into something or testing it,” says Wood. “The same way you’d squint at a diamond to see if it’s real, squinting shows you’re focusing harder to be sure it’s not just a mirage.” And that, she says, is a great sign. That coy little spy tactic shows that your date likes you so much, he or she is looking more closely to see if you could possibly be as great as you seem. (Obviously you are!)<br /><br /><b>Your date asks the “why” and “how” questions</b>.<br /><br />During dinner conversation, any polite date will ask you factual things about your family like, “So, do you have brothers and sisters?” But that’s not necessarily a sign they feel chemistry with you. It is a sign of chemistry, however, if they delve deeper and ask more probing questions. As in, “So, how did you get interested in accounting, anyway?” And “Why did you decide to move all the way across the country?” That’s one of the ways Jennifer Santana, 29, first noticed that she and her current boyfriend were clicking. “He asked questions about my family — not just the same old questions, but things like, ‘What are your parents like?’ People on first dates don’t really ask these kinds of questions unless they have some intention of meeting them some day.” These challenging questions are a strong sign that the person you’re with is seriously interested in you and not just making polite chit-chat.<br /><br /><b>Your date gets quiet midway through your time together</b>.<br /><br />Rather than taking your date’s silence as a sign your date has lost interest, it could actually be the opposite: Your date may be feeling such a pull toward you that he or she is lost in thought about it. “Sometimes, a person feels such a strong attraction that instead of nodding and following the conversation, he or she is just contemplating you,” says Wood. So the next time your date seems to have missed the whole end of your story, don’t cast the person off too quickly. If you really can’t be sure whether the distraction is a bonus or a sign of boredom, go ahead and ask. “Say to your date, ‘Hey, where’d ya go?’” suggests Sharyn Wolf author of <a href="http://goo.gl/KrO4c">Guerilla Dating</a>. “If the person says, ‘What are you talking about?’ or acts defensive about paying attention, that’s not a good sign. But if you get a grin back and a, ‘Sorry, I guess I got distracted,’ that can be a great sign. It shows this new companion may have been imagining a future outing — or just a future — with you!”<br /><br /><b>You hear “you’re” a lot<b></b></b>.<br /><br />If your date says to you, “You’re awesome” or “You’re so funny” or “You’re a trip!” or “You’re something else…” then you’re very lucky! Personalizing your admiration or approval of a date means a lot; it’s a strong sign of attraction, while statements like, “That’s awesome” or “That’s funny” don’t mean as much. Using the word you means that the person feels chemistry with you, versus just grooving on your story-telling skills.<br /><br /><b>Your date gives you a token of the evening</b>.<br /><br />If your date gives you something you can hold onto and look at later, chances are he or she is feeling chemistry. Jennifer’s date once picked up a pack of matches from the restaurant they were in and said, “Here, for you.” He didn’t say, “Something to remember me by” or “So we’ll always remember this night,” but that, in fact, was the underlying message. It’s a sign that your date wants you to have something to remember him or her by… because clearly this person will be remembering your date as a great one.<br />By Amy Spencer.</div>Montyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06861374433444641236noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-19817940055098654322011-12-28T13:31:00.006+05:302012-01-02T14:29:21.383+05:30Best Top 10 Flirting Tips<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div>Some people are natural flirts, but what if you're not one of those people? We've compiled 10 expert tips on flirting that even the most timid of singles can use.<br /><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtWxTM7FuHZN5S1N-4jxjsRS6gpc8w7fBMwNA9YqoyUNNHHQjBXyTcDkgf3BV-1Om74wiY84gKPSRohHBxMLca3gZPmyJlDvOqbp_5yIa030v1Lv_Mcd5EIIJ513k05_iJwPkmH1MWNrg/s1600/Signs-of-Attraction-Flirting.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtWxTM7FuHZN5S1N-4jxjsRS6gpc8w7fBMwNA9YqoyUNNHHQjBXyTcDkgf3BV-1Om74wiY84gKPSRohHBxMLca3gZPmyJlDvOqbp_5yIa030v1Lv_Mcd5EIIJ513k05_iJwPkmH1MWNrg/s1600/Signs-of-Attraction-Flirting.jpg" /></a></div><br /></div><div><ol><li><b>Flirting is an attitude :</b>A good flirt is self-confident and not afraid to take risks. Be enthusiastic and positive — it works!</li><li><b>Start a conversation : </b>The best opening line is saying hello. Talk about the surroundings, ask a question, ask for help or state an opinion.</li><li><b>Have fun : </b>Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability.</li><li><b>Use props : </b>Never leave home without a prop. Props are natural conversation starters. They encourage conversation and others will be compelled to start talking to you. Great props include dogs, kids, unusual jewelry, a fabulous scent, a sweatshirt with your favorite passion, unusual ties, hats, or an interesting book or newspaper.</li><li><b>Be the host : </b>Change your behavior from guest to host. You are not a passive person waiting around for romance; instead, you're the welcome committee</li><li><b>Make the first move : </b>Move closer to the person you want to meet. Say hello.</li><li><b>Listen : </b>You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you speak. Listening is a true art. Your flirting partner will be drawn to you. Everyone loves to be heard.</li><li><b>Eye contact : </b>Please look your partner in the eye gently (no more than a few seconds) and then glance away. Don't stare — it's a turn off.</li><li><b>Compliment : </b>Compliment your flirting partner. The best compliments have the element of surprise. The "flirter" will know that you really noticed them. Remember, your compliments must be honest, sincere and genuine. When you receive a compliment, the best response is a simple "Thank you!"</li><li><b>Smile : </b>It's contagious. Smiling makes you so much more approachable. A smile lights up your face and draws people to you. You'll be a people magnet.<br /><br />By <i>Fran Greene</i></li></ol></div></div>sherlockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00957567662242969748noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-12050319153407742722011-12-28T13:30:00.007+05:302012-01-02T14:26:06.111+05:30The Chemistry of Kissing<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://blindgossip.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/couple-kissing-13.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="340" src="http://blindgossip.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/couple-kissing-13.jpg" width="550" /></a></div>You must remember this, a kiss is just a kiss… hang on a minute. No it isn’t! Because when it comes to dating, a kiss can change everything. Sometimes it’s spine-tinglingly magical and sends shivers from your neck to your toes. And sometimes, well, it feels more like licking a wet fish. While the chemistry you feel on your night out says a lot about how the kiss might go, there are a few things you can do to increase your chances of butterflies, chills, fireworks, and other memory-making moments. Try these lip-smacking tips to make this the first of many kisses to come.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Read when the moment is right</b></div><div><br /></div><div>Ever found yourself bumbling and mumbling at the end of a date, wondering if your attempt at a good night smack will be the kiss of death? You’re not alone. “This is, without a doubt, one of the most common questions people ask me,” says Sheila Lee, creator of advice site Kissingbooth.com. So how do you tell if someone would welcome a smooch from you? According to Lee, look for these signs: Is your date making tons of eye contact with you, or standing closer than a friend or business colleague would? If so, says Lee, this person probably wants you to go for it.</div><div><br /></div><div>If you really can’t read your date, make yourself available for your date to make the move. Lee’s suggestions: Stand close to your date, and let your arm rub against his or hers. Face your date with your arms open, not crossed, to show you’re open to a kiss. Tell your date you had a good time, and ask your date how they felt. And most important? “Smile. A lot of people are turned on by a smile, which shows you’re comfortable with the person you’re with and happy. If your date thinks he or she is making you happy,” points out Lee, “then he or she is likely to think a kiss can make you even happier.”</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Lock lips in a place where you don’t have to hold back</b></div><div><br /></div><div>Yes, it’s romantic to kiss, say, out on a street corner, but if you’re not the PDA type, you might end up holding back during your kiss. And those unsure feelings could hold back a fireworks-worthy performance. The fact is, kissing signals our brains to produce oxytocin, a hormone that gives us that wonderful, weak-kneed feeling.And the chemicals that produced that feeling prompt you to want to kiss more and create more, like a love drug. To make sure nothing stops that chemistry-building chemical process, make sure you’re in a spot where you feel comfortable and safe, and you’re not worried about what you’re doing or who’s watching: Move inside a doorway, behind a column, into a quiet room, or in the front seat of a dark car. That way, you and your date’s bodies will be free to do what they’re — ahhhhh, sigh, melt — supposed to.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Make eye contact before, during, and after your kiss</b></div><div><br /></div><div>Eye contact immediately ups the intimacy level of any sexual act, say experts—so if you’re smooching with your peepers shut tight, you could be missing out! Even recently-single singer Jessica Simpson is a fan of opening her eyes during a smooch. “I love to kiss with my eyes open,” she’s said. “It’s kind of weird because you might only see one eyeball, but it’s amazing what you can see through someone’s eyes. It sounds clichéd, but the eyes really are the window to the soul.” So, before you go for gold, take a few seconds — one Mississippi, two Mississippi — to look at your partner eye-to-eye and establish this is a special moment between the two of you. After you first kiss, pull back, open your eyes, really look at your date, then kiss again. Then, open your eyes once during the kiss to bring the personal touch home.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Feel free to talk a little</b></div><div><br /></div><div>Kissing is such a strong language, it’s easy to wonder: Does yapping in between smooches ruin the moment? Not always. In fact, says Michael Christian, author of The Art of Kissing, sometimes words can help ratchet up the chemistry. According to his research, the absolute number one sentence that kissers most like to hear: “You’re such a good kisser.” Following that, he suggests you also say either, “You’re so beautiful,” “You’re so hot,” or “I never want to stop kissing you.” These kinds of words do two things. “One, they show that you’re serious about the particular person you’re kissing, and that it’s truly personal,” says Christian. “Two, it communicates that you’re in the first stage of what your body wishes was a bigger, closer connection. Your feelings are so huge, you’re having to hold back. This says it’s not just a kiss, it’s the start of something incredible.” Let’s be honest, who doesn’t want to know they’re causing that?</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Keep your hands to yourself</b></div><div><br /></div><div>Sometimes we get so caught up in the human contact of a kiss, we grip our partner’s neck, reach around his or her back, run a hand along a thigh, and do all sorts of a grabby things over and, ahem, under clothing. The only problem? Sometimes all that touching is actually detracting from the kiss, say experts. A kiss, on its own, can sometimes be powerful enough. So, try keeping your hands to yourself for a few minutes, kiss and only kiss, and see how the chemistry takes over.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Don’t forget to use your nose</b></div><div><br /></div><div>Some anthropologists believe that kissing evolved from sniffing, as some indigenous cultures rub noses rather than kissing, points out Vaughn Bryant professor of anthropology at Texas A&M University. “Turns out that we have very powerful musk glands right underneath our eyes, and each person has a distinct smell,” explains Vaughn. “Kissing got started by people smelling each other and they would rub across the nose. Touching the lips was a natural outgrowth.” Sampling another person’s scent is a primal urge we share with other animals (including moles, dolphins, turtles and dogs), so take a moment to breathe in your date to kick the connection up a notch.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Convince your date to try the kiss your way</b></div><div><br /></div><div>You loved the dinner, you laughed the whole way home, and you were living for the good night kiss… until you got it. Turns out your date doesn’t kiss the way you do. Has your chemistry fizzled for good? No way! So what’s the best way to get your styles more in synch? Don’t ever say, "I don’t like the way you kiss" that will be a big blow to the ego, and will make women self-conscious the next time you kiss.” One option is to make the issue about you, by saying something like, "I like to kiss a little different than most people" which will make them feel at ease (kind of like the old-fashioned “It’s not you, it’s me” line). Or, suggest you both branch out and experiment so that they won’t take the change in kissing personally. Say, ‘I want to try something" and then initiate a kiss the way you want it.</div><div>By Amy Spencer</div><div><br /></div></div>sherlockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00957567662242969748noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-74289933541619895222011-12-28T13:09:00.004+05:302011-12-31T20:51:28.733+05:30The 10 Best Places to Kiss<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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You lucky single person, you - your <a href="http://for-relationship.blogspot.com/search/label/dating" rel="dofollow" title="dating tips">dating</a> days are full of adventure and kisses shared in dimly-lit restaurants and on street corners. But where, we wondered, are the very best places to lock lips? You already know about the beach at sunset, under the mistletoe and right smack dab on the mouth. Here, more superior smooch sites to check out when you're ready to make out.</div>
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<li><b>On a roller coaster</b> : Yes, love has its ups and downs, but that's what keeps it exciting. Kiss at the crest of that first big hill and hang on to each other as you plummet - talk about a rush!</li>
<li><b>On your desk </b>: Research shows that as many as 61 percent of relationships start in the workplace, and 50 percent of office amours lead to marriage (that includes this writer!). So if you're flirting by the coffee machine or bantering at brainstorming sessions and it isn't against company rules, take it to the next level (after hours, please; discretion is important!). Don't have a desk job? Find the nearest supply closet.</li>
<li><b>At a museum</b> : Appreciating a beautiful work of art together can create passion. Why waste it? Give in, whether inspired by Picasso's The Lovers at the National Gallery of Art in Washington, D.C., or a romantic, moving piece at a local gallery.<br /><b><br /></b></li>
<li><b>In the middle of a crowded street :</b> Preferably at rush hour on any given Monday. Life can be mundane and hectic at the same time, but a sweet, juicy kiss can make an average moment special.</li>
<li><b>In a dressing room </b>: Are you the type who's turned on by the idea of a public display of affection but would prefer some darned privacy? The dressing room rendezvous affords the best of both worlds. Plus, it has illicit allure (sneaking someone in where he or she technically isn't supposed to go) without setting off theft detectors.</li>
<li><b>On a pile of coats</b> : Preferably, with a stranger you met at the party. It's a mating rite of passage everyone should experience at least once. Guaranteed to irritate other guests!</li>
<li><b>Upside down</b> : You don't need Spidey skills to pull it off. One person simply sits in a chair and tilts his or her head back while the other person approaches from behind, bends over and plants one. Or try it with one person lying on a couch, head against the armrest, and the other person standing above and leaning over. It's a little awkward, a little weird - and absolutely wonderful.</li>
<li><b>In the backseat </b>: Find yourselves a lover's lane, climb into the passion pit, and neck till you steam up the windows. It's retro romantic.<br /><b><br /></b></li>
<li><b>In a downpour</b> : Yes, kissing in the rain is kind of cliche, but if you haven't tried it, please do. The reason this kiss rules? Everyone else is frantically running for shelter, which makes time seem to stop for the two of you. It's surreal, and very sexy.</li>
<li><b>In bed, while one of you is asleep</b> : You know from fairy tales that the kiss that awakens can lead to happily ever after. There's simply no lovelier way to wake up. As the kisser, however, you're advised to refrain if the kiss is recuperating from a double shift after a bout of insomnia.<br />by <i>Nina Malkin</i></li>
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Making successful small talk with someone you've just met isn't rocket science, but it does demand more effort than tossing out a tired opening line. The added pressure of a social situation — a date, a party, an encounter at a singles club — may tie your tongue into knots. The best thing is to ignore what's going on around you and concentrate on the person at hand. If you show that you are interested, you'll be surprised how quickly people open up.</div>
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People love to share their enthusiasm for their hobbies. If you meet someone jogging, see if you can spark some shoptalk. And vice versa. If you're at work, ask them what they like to do to relax. Try to discover what is not obvious—the mind in the sexy blonde, the animal in the geek.</div>
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A question demands a response, which is the essence of conversational give-and-take. But a yes/no query can bog you down in monosyllables. Think like a reporter: Ask who, what, when, where and why. Instead of, "Did you see the latest Bruce Willis movie?" try, "What did you think of it?"</div>
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Shy people who have trouble making conversation are so anxious about what they are going to say next that they don't listen to what the other person says. Every answer to your intriguing questions opens up new conversational avenues to explore. Follow up on those leads. As an added bonus, the more you concentrate on the other person, the less your palms will sweat, the fewer words for you to stumble over. And your new acquaintance is bound to be charmed by your astute appreciation of his or her own sterling qualities.</div>
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<span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;">Ten years down the line in a marriage, most couples find it hard to keep their relationships steady, but that’s not the case with the soccer ace <a href="http://goo.gl/WtmTk" target="_blank" title="david beckham" rel="nodofollow">David Beckham</a> and his wife Victoria. The couple will celebrate 10 years of wedded bliss on July 4 and their love seems to be growing stronger every year.</span><br />
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<li><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"><b>Give each other space</b> - Absence makes the heart grow fonder, especially when living on different continents. While David is playing football in Italy, Victoria keeps herself busy juggling family life and her fashion career in the States.<br />"Separate interests keep their love fresh and alive. They make the most of, and live for, the time they spend together," says Quilliam.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"><b>Forgive and forget </b>- David’s downfall came in 2004 in the form of Rebecca Loos, 32.<br />"The Beckhams were obviously able to talk through their problems, learnt to understand one another, and then put it behind them," says Quilliam.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"><b>Family comes first </b>- The Beckhams have produced a hat-trick of gorgeous sons: Brooklyn, 10, Romeo, six, and break-dancing Cruz, four.<br />"When you’re in a loving marriage and know you can weather any storm, having a child can bring you even closer, provide a focus for your love and give you a shared job to do,” says Quilliam.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"><b> Be each other’s cheerleader</b> - The couple idolises each other.<br />“Victoria’s made many sacrifices, but both have genuinely admired and supported the other. Be proud of what your partner does - and tell them so,” says Quilliam.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"><b>Dress for marriage success</b> - The Beckhams ensure their glamour dial is always cranked up to 11 on nights out.<br />“It’s a sign of disrespect to your partner to let yourself go. By taking care of themselves, David and Victoria help keep the lust alive,” says Quilliam.<br /><b><br /></b></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"><b> When two become one</b> - Their penchant for copycat behaviour is a sure-fire sign of a successful relationship.<br />“While individuality is important, their ‘matching’ styles, and the overlap between them, shows the world they have a rock-solid partnership - they think, feel and act the same,” says Quilliam.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"><b> All you need is love</b> - Victoria and David travel thousands of miles to spend one night together.<br />“They’re constantly declaring their love. Just saying: ‘I love you’ every day goes a long way in keeping romance alive,” says Quilliam.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"><b> The in-laws are not the enemy </b>- The secret of a happy relationship is a happy family. With their hectic schedules, David and Victoria would be lost without Sandra and Jackie, their respective mothers-in-law, who regularly travel with the family, acting as babysitters and allowing the couple to spend precious time alone.<br />“The Beckhams know the importance of making their mums feel involved and valued. They give the family stability and are a vital source of support,” says Quilliam.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"><b> Never air your dirty laundry in public </b>- Behind the scenes, Posh and Becks have had their fair share of humdinger rows. But unlike other celebrity couples, they’re careful never to argue or criticise each other in public.<br />“David and Victoria have such a public profile that even the slightest hint of tension would quickly come back to haunt them. They never criticise or bad-mouth each other, and if anything negative happens, they close ranks,” says Quilliam.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"><b>Spice up (Sex) life</b> - Posh is regularly seen scouring LA’s sex shops and stocking up on red-hot goodies. And David often buys sexy underwear for his missus.<br />“Love thrives on physical passion. Shared pleasure and sex binds them together and helps them get through stressful times,” says Quilliam</span></li>
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Not knowing the secret cycling desires of bassa and sea bass, I cannot vouch for the total truth of this remark. But, since nature didn't use the hermaphrodite earthworm as the model for human sexual wiring, and happily chose to put different circuitry into our two genders, we do have to deal with blown fuses all the time.<br /><br />Scientists, sociologists and agony aunts have made a lifetime's search and living from the man-woman equation. Through different math, and varying degrees of scholarship, they have arrived at conclusions which ordinary couples discover on a daily basis: namely can't live with, can't live without.<br /><br />So everyone has had to enter into a conspiracy of convenience and shrug that common ground is unattainable because the thinking processes of the two genders are as manifestly different as their genetalia. The American Jhon Gray passed the buck on a cosmic scale with his seminal book Men Are from Mars, Women are from Venus. The more down to earth British-Australian couple, Allan & Barbara Pease, have produced such bestsellers as Why Men Don't Listen & Women Can't Read Maps and Why Men Need Sex and Women Want Love, apart from The Definitive Book of Body Language.<br /><br />At the recent Mumbai Fully Booked: The Times of India Literary Carnival, I shared the stage with Allan Pease. The very attractive Barbara was on her own lecture circuit, which is just as well, because the two together would have been too formidable a match.<br /><br />The main point of conflict according to Allan (and Barbara) is that when women talk, they are merely 'downloading'. Their men, whose thought paths are quite different, think that they are seeking solutions and so offer what they consider to be sage and superior advice. Women, interrupted in midflow, are furious; the men are bemused/ offended; one accusation leads to another; and before you know it, as Allan put it, the 'man is forced to go camping'.<br /><br />The Pease theory attributes the 'You don't talk to me/ Don't interrupt me/ You don't listen to anything' conundrum to the 'scientifically proven' fact that 'speech centres' in the male brain are few and far between. So, men have to grope for a response. Indeed, they subconsciously have to go on a massive search and self-rescue mission before being able to produce a meaningful sentence. On the other hand, there's such a profusion of speech centres in the female brain that they can unleash a verbal barrage without a second thought.<br /><br />This is why a five-year-old girl will prattle away, and a boy at that age will be dragged into therapy by his anxious mother. Sons only catch up when their (better) spatial ability and logic is called for, when they start doing math and science.<br /><br />According to Pease, women in a group will all talk at the same time - and all of them will be hearing, and following, everything, whereas a man will have completely lost the plot. That's because men instinctively wait their turn before speaking (a theory totally disproved every night on our television news channels).<br /><br />The Peases use the Rodin Factor to explain one more area of malefemale discord. They say that the iconic 'Thinker' could only have been sculpted in the male form. Men need to go up on a figurative rock to think over their problems - and they have to do so in solitude. Another man would never dream of hauling himself up there to help him out. A woman on the other hand, will instinctively clamber up to offer him solace if not solutions, and will immediately be pushed off. Result: sulks and, yes, the camp cot.<br /><br />It's easy to dismiss much of this as being patronising - or just pat. Yet, if the two sides did accept these basic differences in wiring, there would be fewer domestic explosions. But then how can a woman think like a man? And how could a man ever deign to think like a woman?sherlockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00957567662242969748noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-78448999375645412312011-12-23T18:03:00.006+05:302012-03-17T10:37:11.914+05:30First date dos and don'ts<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div>Yes, the day you have been waiting for has come true. Someone has asked you out and you want to look your best and make that first impression so it can last forever. Nervous? Don't be. For, here are a few to make you feel comfortable.<br />
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<b>Choose a good deo/perfume: </b>Body odour is a major put off. How you smell matters a lot. And for guys and girls who smoke, make sure you brush your teeth or have a gum in your teeth to keep your breath fresh. Use your regular deo or perfume. Remember what smells good on your friend may have the same effect on you. So it's safe to be original.<br />
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<b>Choose a quiet place for meeting:</b> This is your first meeting so make sure the place you are going to hang out is not crowded where you have to shout to hear each other. Remember this meeting is for you to know each other better, so your first stop should be at a quiet place.<br />
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<b>Be modest:</b> Don't let the conversation be all about yourself. You are not there for a job interview so let the other person talk. Once you reach a comfort level, you can be at ease to begin your self-boasting session.<br />
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<b>Speak about mutual interests:</b> This helps for future meetings. Should you both have interest in music or books, then perhaps you both could go book shopping or attend a music concert together.<br />
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<b>Keep your cell phone away:</b> Unless absolutely necessary, do not fiddle with your cell phone. This will only distract you both away from the conversation. Make full use of the time to talk about each other's interests.<br />
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<b>Graduate:</b> Both of you are mutually interested, do not have anything to talk, but want to keep company. Then you can perhaps take off to a movie so that you can have little conversation, but enjoy each other's company. A word of caution: Don't choose a drama or horror movie. Comedy or even romantic (if you both are up to it) genre would do.<br />
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<b>Exchange contacts:</b> You wished the day lasted forever, but alas it has ended! All is not lost yet, exchange email ids and telephone numbers. You can perhaps also add him/her on your facebook. Her facebook should give a better insight into the real person!</div></div>sherlockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00957567662242969748noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-63493482897993748782011-12-23T12:26:00.004+05:302012-03-12T15:30:18.842+05:30Relationship Advice For Women - Do's and Don't<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-_rilALuV3d4/TvQsTPdE-rI/AAAAAAAAABc/fijuQSv22O8/s1600/womanknows-relationship.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;" title="relationship advice-man, woman"><img border="0" height="200" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-_rilALuV3d4/TvQsTPdE-rI/AAAAAAAAABc/fijuQSv22O8/s200/womanknows-relationship.jpg" width="150" /></a></div>Most books about relationships are cut-out for both male and female, but we all know that it works differently for both sides so why would you read about something that is not specifically written for you. Here is the relationship advice for you that understands what you are going through right now.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>When He’s Annoying</b></span><br />
Women must understand that men are indeed annoying. They don’t call, they come home late, they forget things, they don’t want to do things. It makes you wonder why you even fell for that smile and smooth talking when you get a toddler for a boyfriend. You might think you have the worst one in town but here’s the thing: they are all like that. One way or the other that perfect someone of yours is going to act up and it is going to be difficult. What you have to do is simply ignore him when he is like that and get on with your life. As if you notice anything. Most likely he’s just doing it to get a reaction from you. And the moment he sees it is not working, he’ll stop.<br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">When Nagging Doesn't Work</span></b><br />
Surely nagging is not included in any relationship advice for women that you can find. But why do women do it anyway, because that is who you are. And that is why you should understand that guys are just guys. By nature they do things that drive women crazy. And so here’s the deal, you make a list of things that bother you and see which ones you can let go of. Imagine how much money you would save years from now for Botox.<br />
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Now those that bother you, let him know about it by being straightforward. Do not cry or get too emotional because he would just shut you off like he does when he’s watching TV and you want him to help you in the kitchen. Now even if you had this discussion and it still would not work simply pull back. Men responds to actions not to words. Pretty soon he’d wonder what is going on. Normally by this time she would nag at 40 words per second by now if I did not call her. And pretty soon he would be behaving as he should be.<br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">When He’s Wondering Whether He Should be in this Relationship</span></b><br />
If your boyfriend brought up the idea of being away from each other, having a temporary break, or seeing other people then it’s as good as breaking up without the deal of being the bad guy. This also includes if he’s not sweet anymore or is being cold to you lately. If that relationship advice for women has convinced you to make him this fabulous dinner, take a shower and wear the skimpiest outfit you can find, throw away that book immediately. You have been doing your best all the time and the last thing you want to hear is he is thinking about whether you are worth it. Well, I suggest you help him pack now because not because you are nice but rather because you are nice to yourself. You do not need a guy who makes you insecure about yourself and who do not appreciate who you are. This is not some game to convince him that you’re worth it. It’s about you deciding if he’s even worth all this trouble.<br />
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Any relationship advice for women would ask you to go after the guy, play nice, don’t say anything that might push his buttons. However, what you must understand is that men don’t need this when they look for a woman that might be the one. Otherwise they could just hire someone to be their assistant. He needs someone that could level up with him, someone he’d be interested with for the rest of his life and being someone that you’re not is the last thing that he needs. Oh let me rephrase that, it’s not what YOU need.<br />
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<b>You should:</b><br />
<ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Pay him compliments and give him presents (even flowers)</li>
<li>Introduce him to your friends and don’t ask him to give up his friends</li>
<li>Ring the doorbell even if you have a key to his door (would you like to be taken unaware in your own bathroom?)</li>
<li>Go with him to a football game (he shouldn't think that you are going to be a football fan)</li>
<li>If you bump into your ex, try to ignore him (even if he looks great and you are not over him)</li>
<li>Tell him how clever he is (at least once a week)</li>
<li>Not try hard to win his confidence and make him a member of your family -- you are with him because you like him and you should always show it to him</li>
<li>Never criticize his friends, even if you feel like killing some of them; give him a chance to spend time with them</li>
<li>Try not to focus on his defects</li>
<li>Control your jealousy of his children if he’s divorced; - let him spend time with his children</li>
</ul><b>You should not</b><br />
<ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Tell him about your past relationships in great detail</li>
<li>Spy on him -- it’s a sign of distrust and a total lack of self-confidence</li>
<li>Stop looking after yourself</li>
<li>Vocalize your admiration for Kevin Costner or Tom Cruise on your first movie date</li>
<li>Fixate on his past love affairs and give all his girlfriends an angry look -- you should try to make them your allies</li>
<li>Take your girlfriend with you everywhere just because the poor girl is so lonely</li>
<li>Date married men because it’s in poor taste and things are going to go wrong</li>
<li>Try to be his children’s mother: they already have a mother</li>
</ul></div>Montyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06861374433444641236noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6517530369310614096.post-63014616662038526892011-12-22T13:57:00.002+05:302012-03-12T15:28:08.476+05:30Relationship Advice for Men - Why It's Okay To Take Things Slow Sometimes<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">One thing in relationship that most men seem to have in common is the need to try and rush things when they feel like they have fallen in love with a woman. You might think it would be noble to rush into things without thinking about it when it truly is love, but that is not always the best decision that you can make. In fact, quite often it can lead to many more problems than to solutions.<br />
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The urge to rush when you feel as though you have found the "one" is nothing new. Even back in the earliest times of written history, there have been tales of guys falling for a woman and deciding not to waste one moment as they knew it was the right woman for them. While it may always work out in fairy tales and other historically romantic literature, in the every day relations... it can sometimes backfire on you.<br />
<strong>Here are some reasons why you may want to take it slow sometimes:</strong><br />
<strong>1) Rushing into a relationship with a <a href="http://for-relationship.blogspot.com/search/label/Men-women" rel="dofollow" title="relationship tips for women">woman</a> can cause you to see her only through rose colored glasses.</strong><br />
Many men who end up with a woman who turns out to be nothing but trouble for them made the mistake of taking things too fast and not slowing down when they should have. Because of this, it can be easy to see a woman through rose colored glasses, as in... you see only the good that you want to see and ignore the rest. If she truly is the right woman, then she would still be the one if you were to wait things out. And in doing so, you can get a chance to see what she is really all about and possibly avoid ending up with a woman who is nothing but trouble.<br />
<strong>2) You also don't want to make her feel that you possibly are in desperation mode.</strong><br />
A guy can give off a desperation vibe in a relationship if he is not careful and he is trying to move things too swiftly with a woman. As you should already know, desperation is not a virtue in the eyes of most women. By taking things a little bit slower, you can make sure that you are not giving off that desperation vibe that so many other men end up giving off.<br />
<strong>3) Variety in your relationships can allow you to get a real taste of what you really want in a woman.</strong><br />
This is another key reason why taking a relationship slow can be a good thing. Rushing into a relationship also usually means making a commitment very quickly, and that can be bad if you don't have a lot of experience in dating. You need to gain some experience in order to really get a taste of what attributes you are really fond of in a woman and the slower you go, the less likely you will end up settling down too soon without getting that taste of variety that you need to have.<br />
These are all very good reasons why it can be a good thing to take things slow with women when it comes to relationships. Keep in mind that although your feelings for a woman is one today... you may not feel that way tomorrow.</div>sherlockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00957567662242969748noreply@blogger.com0